The Girl I Think I Want and the Girl I Get

There’s been a constant struggle within me since I started noticing and talking to girls years ago. My eyes are charmed by the quirky, layered clothes, jeans, Converse, cool looking girl that drinks beer, listens to the same music I do or can recommend new music that I’d like, perhaps she rides a bike, colors her hair.

The “hipster” girl.

She shows her value in shallow things and uses them as eye candy to distract from her flaws. A purse shaped like a turtle with “random” pin-buttons on them. Bangs cut flat just above her eyes.

I’ve been drawn to them since I started playing in bands in the 90’s. They were also my friends but as I didn’t know how to play the game and dance the dance that leads to sex with these girls, I was put in the friendzone rather quickly and it’s painfully obvious that I put myself there.

The problem with these girls, at least 15 years later, is that they seem to have common personality flaws. They’re irrationally combative, sarcastic – to the point where every sentence in a conversation is sarcasm, chatting with them goes no where because they are more interested in fighting than playing. I can start conversations with these girls just fine. Approaching is no problem and for “fitting in”,  I have a middle of the road dress style that fits in with the pseudo bohemian and the clean and classy look.

Whatever, I’m losing focus.

The thing is, I don’t want to put up with these girls and their poor personalities. I’m drawn to them based on this feeling of nostalgia for my past but these girls aren’t the same breed of broads I was crushing on in the late 90s.

BUT, the girl I do well with? She would be the hipster girl’s opposite, as it were. The girl with the summer dress, layered long hair, minimal – tasteful jewelry, and feminine physique; this is the girl that I flirt with naturally and build rapport and attraction with ease. She’s the girl that enthusiastically responds to my texts and agrees to meeting up for drinks.

Hipster girl? She bullshits around with me, sends me unfunny “ironic” texts, then ignores me as I push for a meetup.

It makes it easy to walk away from a girl like that luckily. She doesn’t want a good time, no problem for me.

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9 thoughts on “The Girl I Think I Want and the Girl I Get

  1. My thoughts exactly. I’m naturally attracted to women that are feminine, the summer dresses, heels, all of that, yes. The hipster girls, nothing but trouble. I think a lot of guys are conditioned to feel like they want the hipster girls, but deep down, they want the feminine girls. Society keeps pressing feminism, and men keep rejecting it (even if they have to learn the hard way.)

  2. I exchanged numbers with a hipster chick a few months ago. A couple days later she started texting me things like “Send n00dz”. Obviously she thought it was ironic, but after that, we never had a normal conversation or made plans to ses each other again. She just stuck with her weird act… It was bizarre, and belied her lack of femininity.

  3. Gotta admit, there’s something about hipster girls that can be really appealing. But there’s something else that makes them completely unappealing as well. I’ve yet to nail down precisely what it is, but a good example is Zooey Deschanel. Can’t stand the girl.

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